The pain and pleasure theory….
IGTV got me explaining more in words again.
Tony Robbins introduces me to this theory. The theory that as humans we seek pleasure and avoid pain. That’s basically how we make decisions.
Would you like to go pub?
At the moment your brain will associate pub with either pain or pleasure and that’s how you’ll decide what to do.
Getting up for 6am gym when it’s cold, dark and rainy?
Is the pain getting out of bed when your bed is so comforting and warm greater than the pleasure you’ll experience from going to the gym?
You make that decision. Have a think about it, it’s in everything we do. Stomach growls giving us pain so eat to avoid the pain of hungry and we will eat something tasty to seek the pleasure.
Understanding this theory has done wonders for me when it comes to making decisions and is one I’d really encourage you to think about.
When setting goals Try this:
- acknowledging change needs to be made. The first step is acknowledgement. You’ve noticed something that needs to change. This might be that you’re overweight or you’re really unfit.
- Set your goals. You’ve acknowledged your overweight so you set a goal to loose weight. I’d recommend you then break down your ultimate goal into more specific and measurable goals… see manifesting post. This could be loose 1 stone by the time I go on holiday.
- Find your why. Having a purpose to achieve this goal and a why really helps cement you’re goal in an emotional way. To loose 1 stone by the time you go on holiday. Why? Because then I feel good in a bikini and not want to cover up so can get a nice tan and feel happy sitting around the pool just like every other holiday. You’re going to want to remember your why when things get hard.
- Set a plan. You may reach out to a PT, start a programme or start eating healthier and moving more. Each day from now on you’ll be faced with the pain and pleasure theory when it comes to working towards your goals.
You’re at a party, you’ve enjoyed one bit of cake because the pain of saying no when it’s your favourite every cake is greater than if you were to allow yourself a small piece and enjoy every moment. You’re offered a second piece – here comes the decision, remember your why. Is the pain of saying no to the second bit greater than the pain you’ll feel if you don’t feel comfortable and happy on holiday?
Tony explains that we are more likely to avoid pain than seek pleasure. For example, if you’re eating the yummiest food in the world but suddenly someone comes in threatening to kill you unless you stop eating it. No matter how delicious that cake was, dying is more painful… dramatic example but I think you get it.
I use this theory to help me make more conscious decisions. Help keep me accountable and help make decisions that are aligned with me and my goals.
I use the why part to help remind me and to make an emotional connection to my goal.
I use goals to help have a purpose.
I love having a purpose so my life stays interesting and fulfilled.
Yours could too.
Love as always legends xxxx